The Third Victim of Abortion

I will start by saying that I am unapologetically pro-life.  You see, I have a faith in which my God is omniscient.  He ordains life, albeit at times around circumstances that we wish He would not.  He is all knowing and has a purpose.  I will not question my Creator nor will I recommend usurping His authority through the snuffing out of life in the womb.  Medical technology now allows us a real-time view of this act and the child’s response to it.  Most of us gasp in horror at the abuse of animals and other human beings.  Somehow, many do not see abortion through this same lens.

There are three victims of this violent act.  We recognize the child as victim; this magnificent, developing wonder of nature that grows from a single cell into an amazingly complex life-force.  Like a snowflake, unique, there is no other like it.

Victim number two is the mother.  And, don’t deny she is victim.  Any female, who is so distraught by a pregnancy that she feels her best, perhaps her only option, is abortion, is a victim.  And, the woman who terminates her pregnancy, having become so secularized that she can rationalize that if it is not ‘viable’, if it is abnormal or inconvenient, that it is her right to terminate that life, is a victim.  Women are telling us that in hindsight having had an abortion is the worst decision they have ever made.

Now we come to victim number three, the father.  Where DOES the father figure in all this?  Answer:  he does not.  It has been largely decided that although he helped to create this life the mother has complete autonomy over its destiny.  Does anyone ever consider how the father feels?  What marvelous traits does his DNA contribute to this evolving human being? ' What will my child look like, aspire to be, will the love I offer be returned?'

Not every man is a walking container of testosterone in search of his next encounter.  And, if it seems that men are, maybe it is our own fault.  As a gender we have marginalized and dismissed them because we ‘don’t need them.’  We complain they do not respect us.  Can we fault them when we ourselves frequently treat intimacy as a recreational activity?

There are men out there that are loving, responsible, and deeply committed to the women in their lives.  They can certainly be tormented at having no say in the fate of the life that they helped to create. Is there a man out there that would like to comment on the emotional toll this act has had or would have on him?

It takes two to create life and each parent is entitled to a voice.  It’s time men began to speak up and speak out and it is our responsibility to support them.