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3 Steps When Life Hits You Right In The Face

Having a bad day? Learn how to get competitive and turn that frown upside down.

Ever have a REALLY bad day?

One that really SUCKS? Maybe you lose a bunch of clients in one fell swoop? Or you get dressed down by your boss for doing something stupid (and you thought it was brilliant)?

We all have those days. As Rocky Balboa said, "But it ain't about how hard you get hit. It's about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward."

Unfortunately, when you do get hit, you might find yourself wallowing in self pity.

You might even be in one of Kübler-Ross' 5 Stages of Grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance).

Here's how I deal with it — I call it the Rich Gee 3 Stages of Success:

Stage One - Frustration

Not angry, just frustrated. Something (or someone) kicks you HARD out of control and you find yourself wheeling emotionally. 

You question your worth. You start backtracking all of your actions. Add in a healthy scoop of emotions and your are downright FRUSTRATED!

Stage Two - Reality Check

Stop the emotions for a second and let's do a quick reality check. Let's look at your situation logically — what REALLY happened? Is it the end of the world? Can you quickly recover?

Let's level-set our thinking and try to understand what happened and what we can do.

Stage Three - Competitive Spirit

Now that you've thought logically about your situation and have come up with alternative strategies to move forward, let's access your competitive spirit.

You might say, "ARE YOU KIDDING RICH? I just got over being frustrated!" Let me be clear — you need to access your competitive spirit to move forward, take action, and never let this happen to you again.

This is a natural process how humans adapt and EVOLVE. You hit a wall (or a wall hits you), you get frustrated, you do a reality check, and then get up and start running again.

As Rocky says, " Keep Moving Forward".

What do you do when life hits you square in the face?

Rich Gee is a certified business and career coach, based locally in Connecticut. His web site is Rich Gee Group, and you can submit your business and career questions to Rich at patch@richgee.com.

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xxxoxox November 17, 2011 at 11:39 PM
If I remember correctly, Rocky set himself up to be hit in the head repeatedly. A person in the situation you mention might acknowledge having made a mistake in that reality check. Making mistakes is part of being human and it happens over and over again - this is how we learn. Unfortunately, the pesudo-macho culture of business tends to encourage the masking of mistakes and deludes many of us into believing that our mistakes define us and are us. Radical acceptance of our human fallibility does not require us to get up and start running when what we might need to do is slow down so as to better avoid making the same mistakes over and over again. Albert Ellis described this philosophical re-orientation as the "elegant solution."
Ed Rowland November 18, 2011 at 12:19 AM
Rich,I have been hit squarely in the face several times during my life.I think we all have.Something in the human spirit makes us keep moving forward.When I find myself in a very frustrating situation I walk away for 5 minutes or so to regain my senses and then get back to the task at hand.Works for me.Keep Moving Forward
MyGoodPeople December 31, 2011 at 01:11 AM
RIch, this is a terrific article. As a child there is a song we all will recall with the line "pick yourself up, brush yourself off and start all over again". This is the American way. We must never forget our roots or family values. Another recommendation is "help someone else" even the smallest gesture goes a long way and you'll be happy that you did.

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